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"No gifts" wedding… charity gifts, thank yous?

I'm having a "no gifts" wedding. I didn't put this on the invitation, but I asked my mother & future MIL to pass along the word to anyone who asks. Also, we put on our wedding web site under gifts "only your presence… however, if you feel moved to give to charity these are a few of our favorites…" I plan to send you a thank-you card to anyone who I know that gave to charity on our behalf… should I also thank everyone who came? My other concern is that some people might give to a charity but then I might not know about it, so I can't thank them properly. Thoughts?

I wouldn't worry too much about it… people who genuinely want to give to a charity will do so without expecting a thank-you (or at least not be too upset if they don't get one.) I know a lot of charity websites have spaces in the donation forms (if people are donating online) where they can fill in the names of the people they are giving the donation in honor of, and then the charity notifies the person/family of the person being honored via e-mail, so you might be able to track the "givers" that way?

By the way, I think that's an awesome idea… so many couples get caught up in the whole gift/money thing… it's nice to see someone being so selfless! :)

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13 Responses to “"No gifts" wedding… charity gifts, thank yous?”

  1. thinkpinkpunkrock on June 14th, 2009 at 6:28 pm

    Well most Charity donations are anonymous anyhow. I wouldn't worry about who donated to what, if any donation at all. Just send them a 'thank you for sharing our day with us' thank you. That's what i'd do.
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  2. it would be nice to thank everyone. not just those who gave to charity. remember these people took time out to see you get married

    By the way i have to add that is EXTREMELY generous of you.. Most people get married to get money… I think this is a nice way to celebrate your wedding!
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  3. ○•○•Cassie•○•○ on June 14th, 2009 at 7:21 pm

    You should sent a thank you note for attending your big day whether they gave a donation or not. It's a thank you for their support. There probably isn't a way to find out what people gave so I wouldn't stress about it.
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  4. What a nice way to celebrate your wedding! It would be wonderful for you to thank guests for sharing in your wedding day. If you don't feel you can adequately address every attendee, perhaps having a pre-printed Thank you made to send to all the guests.
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  5. hmmm i think in this case you should give a thank you to everyone since you are not asking for gifts. you can just put in something extra if you know they gave to a charity. also if people do give you money and you donate it you can let them know that too on the thank you card.
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  6. it someone donates to a charity in your name, the charity will notify you that that person donated….
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  7. Have a picture of you and your hubby made into wallet size. Then send to everyone and thank them for sharing your special day. Charities will send a letter to you if the person donating gives in your name. (I have done this instead of flowers at a funeral many times and the family always gets a note).
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  8. You should thank them for celebrating your special day with you of course.
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  9. science chick on June 14th, 2009 at 10:38 pm

    I think you have nothing to worry about. You did everything perfectly in my opinion. Since the gift is not to you, a thank you isn't really necessary. You could do thank you notes just for them showing up if you want, you could include a picture of you and them at the wedding, or some picture you think they might appreciate. They may appreciate the thought.
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  10. I wouldn't worry too much about it… people who genuinely want to give to a charity will do so without expecting a thank-you (or at least not be too upset if they don't get one.) I know a lot of charity websites have spaces in the donation forms (if people are donating online) where they can fill in the names of the people they are giving the donation in honor of, and then the charity notifies the person/family of the person being honored via e-mail, so you might be able to track the "givers" that way?

    By the way, I think that's an awesome idea… so many couples get caught up in the whole gift/money thing… it's nice to see someone being so selfless! :)
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  11. You should always be thanking everyone who came to share your day–gift or no gift.

    Dear Sally,

    Thank you so much for sharing in our wedding day. It was wonderful seeing you again. I hope you enjoyed the dinner and dancing as much as we did!
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  12. Send a thank you note to everyone who attended the wedding, whether they give a charitable gift (or a personal gift) or not.

    You are thanking them for their presence, not their presents.
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  13. Thank you's to ALL for sharing your special day
    should be sufficient.
    I LOVE this idea.

    Congratulations to you both!
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